- Getting Started
- The Detente Process
- What does a marriage/family counselor do in mediation?
- What is interest based negotiation? How is it different from positional bargaining?
- Does a Detente mediator make a binding decision for us?
- How does it work with neutral experts? Where do you find them?
- What happens if we can't reach agreement in Detente Mediation?
- What kind of information do we exchange? Who decides what is "relevant" and what happens if there is a disagreement about that?
- Resources
Personal Settlements

Détente Mediation, unlike litigation, is voluntary. Ironically, having the freedom to walk away is what often keeps spouses at the negotiating table. If you have given mediation an honest try and you simply cannot reach agreement on all issues, then you can decide to leave unilaterally. Your next stop could be collaborative law, arbitration, or litigation.
We would encourage you before jumping out of mediation and heading to court with your family law divorce lawyer to express your concerns to the family law attorney-mediator and marriage/family counselor so we can try to assist you with ideas and options to overcome whatever is holding you back. Sometimes talking with another professional like a child specialist or divorce financial planner can break a log jam. We know you invest your time and money into mediation, and we will do whatever we can to help you reach fair and sensible solutions to your divorce or conservatorship (child custody, possession, or parenting plan) disputes. Our role is not over until there is nothing left for us to do.

